Personally, I yearned to be devoted to a person. I fould it beautiful to have all worries and tiredness lifted up knowing I would return home to meet someone I devoted my life to. But I couldn’t lie.
Recently, I promised myself to hold my judgments when talking to others at least until I have to or they ask me to. I decided that active listening is paraphrasing not summarizing, it’s mirroring, not leading, and it’s clarifying, not judging. That promise was put on test yesterday.
The more I can befriend my own joy, my own happiness, my own strength, my own power, my own potential, the more I can celebrate another’s power without jealousy, without comparison, without making myself “less than” or “more than”.
Saya kenal arti investasi jauh sebelum saya fasih apalagi terbiasa mengucapkannnya. Tak begitu jelas kapan saya mulai menghayati kata ini. Bisa jadi ketika saya diminta presentasi ‘mempertanggungjawabkan masa depan’ di depan orangtua saya, selang beberapa hari setelah diwisuda Oktober 1999. Berbekal coretan di selembar kertas A4, kemudian dilanjut dengan slide …
When I call a place or a house home, I might expect them to remain the same as to when I left them. When I call a bunch of people home, I might expect their attitudes toward me to stay the same. The fact is, as much as I wanted to, they will never remain the same